Behavioral · Stories with evidence
Tell me about a conflict with a teammate.
Short answer
Choose a substantive disagreement about work, not a personality clash. Describe both positions fairly, how you separated the technical question from the relationship, and how you reached a decision.
Interviewers are listening for whether you can disagree without damaging the relationship. A story where you were completely right and the other person was irrational is a red flag, because real conflicts are usually two reasonable positions with different information.
How to tell it
- State the disagreement in neutral, technical terms
- Represent the other person's position so fairly they would recognise it
- Describe what you did to resolve it, such as a spike, a shared document or a third opinion
- Name the outcome and what you changed in how you work with that person
Disagreement is not conflict by itself. If you resolved it in a single conversation, say so. Escalating a small technical difference to a dramatic interpersonal story makes you look like the source of friction.
Follow-ups you should expect
Interviewers use these to check whether the first answer was understanding or memorisation.
- 1What did you get wrong in that situation?
- 2How did the relationship change afterwards?
- 3What if the other person had refused to budge?
- 4Would they tell the story the same way?
Say it in the interview
A teammate wanted to keep polling for a dashboard update, and I wanted a websocket. We were both right for different reasons: polling was simpler, but the dashboard was our main support tool and the delay caused duplicate actions. Instead of arguing, we measured update frequency for a week and found the dashboard was open for long stretches. We compromised on server-sent events with a polling fallback, and the relationship improved because we argued with data instead of opinions.
Use this as a model, not a script. Saying it in your own words is what makes it survive follow-up pressure.
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